The existence! Creator or the created?


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There are many ideologies about who and what we are in today’s world. Some say we were created and others say we are the creator.So which position do we truly hold?

We are both and neither.This world is a system which operates on some natual laws and based on these laws,beings come into existence and then they die and decompose. The  laws include such laws as the law of cause and effect and many others which are beyond the comprehention of the human intellect.We are part of this self regulating system.We without having the knowledge consciously and unconsiouly participate in the perpatuation of what is in existence. This is because we are part of this interconnected system.Many things are programmed into us by nature and we are merely following the program. Can we stop the attraction between males and females and physical urges that over take them when at height of passion?This my friends is the nature of the existence we are a part of.

So holding on to the idea that we are the creator does not serve us any good as this implies we have created everything in existence and we created the laws of existence. Silimarly, saying that we were created by a creator also does not serve a purpose as this brings with it the question, who created the creator.

As humans, answers to such questions about the creation of this universe is beyond our comprehention. That is why the Buddha advised human beings to address their immediate problem which is human suffering and leave questions about the origins of the universe aside.  As we are part of the system we do not have a high enough perspective to understand the existence as it truly operates.

As humans we must be humble enough to understand that the workings of this universe is beyond our comprehension. We are just part of the existence and as such we are subjected to the laws of what is. We are neither created nor the creator. We are but a part of this interconnected existence.!

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Moving on after a heart break


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All of us at one point or another will go through a heart break. There are many scenarios in which this could happen. We may have just come out of a long term relationship, loved someone who didn’t reciprocate our feelings, loved someone who was not available or had to end a relationship due to distance.

No matter what the scenario was, a heart break is something that is very difficult to get over. It feels like our heart has been ripped apart and it physically hurts. We get into a state of depression where we don’t take care of our selves anymore. We may even let it affect our work, frienships and other aspects of life. All we want to do is be left alone to wallow in our sorrow.

It is important to take some time to process the situation. But isolating our selves is the last things we should do after a heart break. The more we wallow in our negativity the harder it becomes to move on. Remember that if we do something for long enough, it becomes a habit. It may feel like you will never get over this feeling and you really don’t want to move on from him or her.But no matter how much you want to get back with your ex, you have to make the decision to let it go. This is so you can be whole again to start another relationship in the future with someone new or even the same person. But in order to do that you need to create a new and improved you.

Even if you still love your ex just decide that I will hold on to these feelings but I will keep living my life. I will do the things I like to do, I will spend time with friends and family and I will focus on my goals.I will start a meditation practice so I can become a emotionally more stable person. Even if its hard to let go, make the consious decision to love your ex from a distance for now.

Once we open up to our friends and family about our pain, they can help us feel better. Engaging in our favourite activities can help elivate our mood. Set goals for your self like You will run a 5k run once a month or you will learn to swim. This will help you appreciate your life more after a heart break.

When we continue living this way with time you will find that you would have made many new connections with people who share your passion. You might even meet someone special through your hobbies. Either way keep your self positive and learn to keep moving forward after a break up.

Remember that no one is immune to break ups and every single person has to go through it at one point or another. So we need to accept it as a natural part of life and keep living life with optimism.

Time heals all woulds. Therefore never give up and keep on moving forward.

Also, remember that the most important relationship is the one we have with our selves. To strengthen this, remember to meditate as much as you can.

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Following a middle path


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“The Buddha’s message was simple yet profound. Neither a life of self- indulgence, nor one of self-mortification can bring happiness. Only a middle path, avoiding these two extremes, leads to peace of mind, wisdom, and complete liberation from the dissatisfactions of life.” ~Bhante Gunaratana (from “Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness”)

Following a middle path is something that is highly recommended to people by the Buddha or the enlightened one. It is about not over doing anything or not under doing anything.
For example Buddha decided to not eat while he was meditating as he thought that this will help him detach from his body easier. But he made no progress in his spiritual journey by doing this. Its only after starting to eat and following a middle path that he had the necessary strength to achieve enlightenment.

Many people in today’s world develop addictions because they over do things in order to fill a hole within them selves. When we go through a break up, loose a loved one or become unemployed, many people turn to food, alchol, drugs, psychics and other forms of distractions and start over doing them. Over time it becomes a normal part of their lives and they spend valuable time and money on their addictions.

Once we get into such an addiction it is hard to get out of it. So no matter what our circumstances are we must always strive to follow a middle path in life. If you find that you are spending many hours on an activity and neglect all other aspects of life, try to distribute your time between different activities. Try to live a balanced life.

Another thing to note is that we have to balance our life between our wordly pursuits and our spiritual goals. Incorparating a meditation practice into our lives in between all our worldly responsibilities is a good way to connect with our inner being in this busy world.

So to end, following a middle path we can have a satisfactory and peaceful life.
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Should you consult psychics when making decisions?


To this question my answer is no. Consulting psychics is more a form of entertainment than it is a tool for decision making.

Our futures are continually changing based on what actions we take here and now. Therefore no one can predict our exact future though they may be able to see one possible path.

From here and now we can create our life the way we want to. We are not doomed to expereince something in our future that we do not choose to.Every minute and every second in the now we are creating our futures.

By going to a psychic we can either become over confident that things will surely work out and we become lazy. Or we can go into such a state of panick that we won’t be able to make any decisions or we end up making a decision that was not necessarily the best decision for us.

Another side effect is we would become so busy trying to make sense of the piece of information we received from the psychic that we can become overly sensitive to little things that happen in our lives. “She said I will have an accident. I better not go to work today” or “She said I will meet a handsome stranger at a bar. Let me go to the bar every night this week”. We start living our lives around the so called prohecies and not let life flow naturally where it should.

So if you are consulting a psychic treat it as entertainment and never ask them what action you should take to achieve x y z. Instead use your logic and objective thinking when making life decisions.

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Focusing the mind

In the newage communities people are encouraged to use their mind to imagine things and open their minds up to receiving messages from other beings.

I feel that this is very dangerous. When we let our imagination run wild, our minds become clouded. It is hard to look at any situation objectively when our minds are hazy and not clear. Inviting other being to interefere with our thoughts should not be recommened as we do not know what type of being will communicate with us. They may not have our best interest at heart.

The best thing we can do to improve our mind is train our minds to be one pointed through a meditation practice.  When our minds are trained through meditation they become clear, sharp and free of excessive thoughts. From this state we can make mindful decisions and do what we need to do with a greater focus.

Instead of difussing our minds by aimlessly thinking excessively about everthing, we can learn to reduce our thoughts. Through this we can learnt to be more present and live in the here and now.

Many times what makes us suffer is thinking about what we don’t have or longing for things we can’t have. So by reducing our thoughts we can become detached from such negative thoughts.

To become more spiritual we must detach from the process of needless thinking as much as possible. This will help us live a peaceful and satisfactory life.

Focusing the mind to a one point can be achived by practicing breathing meditation regularly.Through this practice we can have minds that are crisp, sharp and capable of grasping things more quickly.
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Misconceptions about the Law of Attraction


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img_2224When I was going through a difficult time (a heart break) in my life I started diving into the world of spirituality. It was an escape as well as an attempt to find answers to life. First I came across newage concepts like “Law of Attraction” and “your mind creates your reality” when I was looking through books on the subject of spirituality.

At the beginning they seemed to have some bases as when I was down more negative things seemed to happen in my life.  But the more time I spent looking in to these concepts  the more I realised how misguiding they are, especially the way they are sold to people by the newage communities.

I want to focus on Law of Attraction and some misguided thoughts about this concept in this post.

Law of attraction basically says that we attract what we think and what our vibration is at any given time. It is in a nutshell “like attracts like”.

It is true that our thoughts about something creates our perceived reality of that thing. For example we may be stuck in very bad traffic and we will be very late to a doctor’s appointment. While being stuck in traffic we can choose to think how negative this situation is or we can choose to focus on what we can do to remedy the situation like calling in and asking for a new appointment. The later will obviously help us create a reality that is a solution to our problem. So as you can see it was not necessarily that you can think good thoughts and make the traffic disappear. But rather by being positive you found a workable solution to the problem you are in.

With that said, I want to focus on some misconceptions about the law of attraction. Just because we dream of owning a nice shiny sports car it will not appear in our garage. A lot of newage people sell the idea of “law of attraction’ as though things just magically appear in your life because you keep thinking about a certain thing. Also, there is the belief that if things aren’t manifesting in your life you are not holding a high enough vibration. These beliefs are misguided.

When a person decides single mindedly that they want to own a certain brand of a sports car, all of their attention would be on this idea. They will start noticing similar cars in their environment as their thoughts are focused on this brand of cars. They can then choose to do some research on how much they need in order to purchase this car. In doing so they will realise they need to save a certain amount of money each month to purchase that car within two years. So they can then make a savings plan and after two years of constant focus on their goal and saving a bit each month they would be able to own the car they wanted.

So as you can see, it requires work from our part to make things happen in our lives. “Law of Attraction” works to the point where, what we focus on seems to grow, only because we notice more of the things we are thinking about. Our minds process information in our surroundings based on what we are thinking. Therefore if we focus on one particular subject we will notices more things related to that in our environment.

One more point to show that law of attraction doesn’t work as it is sold is, think of the people who die of natural disasters. I am sure they didn’t spend their time thinking that they would be killed by a hurricane and attracted this tragedy to them selves.

To get what we want we have to be single minded about our goals which will help us notice things in our lives that will help us achieve our goals.

So by focussing your thoughts on a particular object but not taking the correct action you will not get what you want. It is by taking the right actions and with persistence that you will achieve anything in life.

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Becoming satisfied with life


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~Understanding the impermanace in life will help us become satisfied with our circumstances~

Life is colored by both ups and downs. Nothing is constant. In fact the only constant in life is change.

We come into life as a baby and since day one our bodies are in a constant state of change. If we look at our breath it is never in one state. Every in breath is followed by an out breath.

This is the nature of this existence. Nothing remains constant. Wanting things to remain the same is being resistant to what is. Accepting the change in life and not becoming attached to the idea that things should always be the way they are can help us move through life with ease.

Many times life becomes diffcult when we get attached and accoustom to things. For example we have just bought a shiny new car and we feel on top of the world. Then a drunk driver who is behind the wheels crash in to your car thats parked on the road side. This sudden change in your circumstances can bring you great suffering. But by telling our selves that everything in life is impermanant  and subject to sudden changes can help us navigate this sitution much more smoothly.We can learn to detach from the negative emotions and do what needs to be done in a practical way.

Our lives are coloured by both hapiness and unsatisfactoriness. One state cannot exist with out the other. Remembering that any unsatisfactoriness you feel will pass with time is a good way to navigate this path we are all on.

Learning to not cling to anything in life too stronly and embracing change that happens in life, we can learn to live a satisfactory life.

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Reason for our life circumstances


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~We are in full control~

Some of us are born to privileged circumstances while others are born to troublesome or mediocre circumstances.

Why is this?!  Why have we been born into the family and circumstances that we have been born into? Is it our fate or is it something else?

Some traditions say that we chose our lives before we came into this existence. Some say we have been put in this body for us to learn certain lessons.

In this post I want to share my perspective on this  topic which is influenced by my Buddhist upbringing.

It is said in Buddhism that everything in existence is here because of a cause. Nothing can exist without a cause. This is known as the law of cause and effect which is further explained by the concept of dependent origination.

So what does this mean? Well it means that we are here in the family that we are born into and in the circumstances we are in is due to some causes or actions we did in a previous incarnation.

You may ask the question how do we know we had a previous life and whether reincarnation is real. To this my answer is I don’t know whether it is real. To me the idea that we come back in a different form makes sense just from my observation of the nature around me. For instance, if we look at rain, once it lands on the earth, the heat makes it evaporate and it turns back into clouds. It then comes back to earth as rain. The cycle continues. Similarly, when our bodies decompose, it seems fair (at least to me) to think that we come back in a different form. Also, there are accounts of people who remember their past lives if you believe such stories.

So to continue, the conditions to which we come back is dependent on the law of cause and effect.  when we do any action we give rise to a cause and this cause will inevitably will have an effect. We may experience these effects in the same life time. But some effects may take longer to ripen and will come to expression in a different life time.

When we come to our current birth we bring with us the Karma or the results of our past deeds into this incarnation. Based on our Karma or causes we created, we will attract parents and life circumstances that are most conducive to expressing results of our Karma.

Therefore it is due to our own actions in our previous lives, that we are in the circumstances we are currently in. Not only that, we are also constantly in the process of creating new Karma in this life time. This means that our present actions will give rise to the effects we will experience later in this life time and the next.

So the point to take home is that according to the concept of Karma we are in full control of the life circumstances we attract as our own actions is the result of our circumstances. This means that if we want to attract good life circumstances not only in this life but the next, we must perform good deeds from the three avenues of Karma. The three avenues of Karma include thoughts, words and actions.

As for the Karma we have already set in motion, we can minimise the effects of these by becoming more mindful of our current actions. And we can choose to create positive Karma from now and forward.

Therefore, no matter what our circumstances are, we can learn to think pleasant thoughts, speak pleasant words and do good deeds and we can create good Karma for our future.

Hope you enjoyed the read.





Cultivating self love through Metta


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img_2217 ~Self acceptance is the first step~

Metta meditation also known as loving kindness meditation is a practice widely followed by the Buddhists around the world. Metta in Sanskrit means friendliness or wishing well towards others.

This meditation focuses on sending Metta towards one self and then towards others. This is considered a very important practice as it helps people cultivate love and kindness towards once self. It is used as an antidote to low self esteem and lack of self love which is very common among people today.

Many of us would have developed lack of self love in our childhood due to certain family and societal conditioning. We learn to put our selves down before someone else does as this would make it less  painful. Similarly, we learn to disregard our needs as expressing our needs was not acceptable in the society we grew up in.

In Buddhism we do not blame our parents or our society as they were just acting from their own conditioned states. Instead we learn to show kindness towards our selves as well as all others. Further to that, Buddhism emphasize that hatred does not bring anyone peace and only kindness will bring peace. Therefore Metta meditation is a key practice used for cultivating kindness.

Below is my version of Metta meditation. I practice this at least once a day to cultivate kindness towards myself as well as all other beings. At the begging showing Metta towards one self will feel uncomfortable and your body will resist it. Acknowledge this resistance and let it pass and continue on with the practice.

Recite the following in your mind.

Metta for oneself

May I be happy

May I be healthy

May I be at peace

May I be free of suffering

May I be free of anger

May I be free of regret and worry

May I attain the ultimate bliss of Nibbana (Enlightenment)

Metta for others

My parents, siblings, children, friends, neighbors, colleagues, country men, all beings in this world and all the beings in this universe: (Take time to name specific names if you wish)

May they all be happy

May they all be healthy

May they all be at peace

May they all be free of suffering

May they all be free of anger

May they all be free of regret and worry

May they all attain the ultimate bliss of Nibbana

From doing this practice, overtime we develop confidence and learn to accept our selves the way we are. We also learn to let go of the guilt we feel when we are wishing well towards our selves or following our happiness.

Similarly, we will cultivate kindness towards everyone around us. This helps us feel a sense of belonging to our community. This practice also helps us  let go of negative emotions like jealousy, envy, fear, worry and doubt we may harbor towards others.

From prolonged practice of Metta we can achieve a calm and stable mind free of negative emotions.

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